The etiquette of consistency. The etiquette of honesty. The etiquette of fairness.
In short, an actual “elopement” — assuming you are using the word honestly — means an marriage where two people become married in secret without formal social celebration, and the marriage is announced after the fact: no showers, no three-tier-cake, no “father-daughter-feature dance”, no “grand entrance”, no white-meringue-ballgown, no pseudo-engraved invitations with stilted wording. It is inconsistent to run off and “elope”, and expect to pick and choose what compensatory ceremonies other people should be willing to undertake in your honour.
Doing it in secret means depriving your friends and family of the joy of celebrating with you, so, in all fairness, it also means that you cannot expect them to pay you court with offerings of housewares and giftcards and the joy of being the centre of attention. It also means that, having been the ones to snub your friends-and-families natural wish to celebrate with you, you will also have to be the ones to “reach out” after your wedding to encourage them to continue to socialize with you and be part of your extended support network. You do this by sending announcements, and by playing host and hostess to your friends at social events including if you like a “reception” — but make very sure the focus of the reception is on the honour you want to give your guests, and not on the honour you want them to give to you.
what do you mean? Sending announcements, absolutely. Having a reception? If you want to. Having a gown, etc? Depends on what you want and where you go.
Etiquette- Eloping??? I didnt think you could use those both in a sentence. LOL
But really there isnt any etiquette, knowing my BFF did this, she regretted it cuz she really wanted a small white gown, close family wedding, and now she is stuck with the lack of memories that it brings.
If you want to elope still- just go to Vegas, and have a small dinner party when you return. You can remain in jeans and tee’s if you like! LOL
**Best of luck tho**
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The etiquette of consistency. The etiquette of honesty. The etiquette of fairness.
In short, an actual “elopement” — assuming you are using the word honestly — means an marriage where two people become married in secret without formal social celebration, and the marriage is announced after the fact: no showers, no three-tier-cake, no “father-daughter-feature dance”, no “grand entrance”, no white-meringue-ballgown, no pseudo-engraved invitations with stilted wording. It is inconsistent to run off and “elope”, and expect to pick and choose what compensatory ceremonies other people should be willing to undertake in your honour.
Doing it in secret means depriving your friends and family of the joy of celebrating with you, so, in all fairness, it also means that you cannot expect them to pay you court with offerings of housewares and giftcards and the joy of being the centre of attention. It also means that, having been the ones to snub your friends-and-families natural wish to celebrate with you, you will also have to be the ones to “reach out” after your wedding to encourage them to continue to socialize with you and be part of your extended support network. You do this by sending announcements, and by playing host and hostess to your friends at social events including if you like a “reception” — but make very sure the focus of the reception is on the honour you want to give your guests, and not on the honour you want them to give to you.
what do you mean? Sending announcements, absolutely. Having a reception? If you want to. Having a gown, etc? Depends on what you want and where you go.
None at all
Etiquette- Eloping??? I didnt think you could use those both in a sentence. LOL
But really there isnt any etiquette, knowing my BFF did this, she regretted it cuz she really wanted a small white gown, close family wedding, and now she is stuck with the lack of memories that it brings.
If you want to elope still- just go to Vegas, and have a small dinner party when you return. You can remain in jeans and tee’s if you like! LOL
**Best of luck tho**