How To Make People Understand Your Decision To Elope?
One of the big issues when it comes to elopement will always be other people! When you make the decision to elope you are shedding the stress of making elaborate wedding plans and saving up enough money to cover the costs, but you are unfortunately opening yourself up to stress caused by family and friends who just don’t get it!
One of the biggest reasons that couples choose to elope is to avoid family politics such as whether or not to invite dad’s new girlfriend and risk upsetting mom! However, when you leave these issues behind you may find that you pick up a whole new set! No matter how you present the idea that you are going to elope, there is always going to be a handful of people who are upset that they cannot attend your wedding. Likely candidates are your parents and your best friends. So how can you help them come to terms with not being invited to your wedding?
Be Prepared To Explain Your Reasons for Eloping
One of the things that you need to be prepared for is that you need to explain your reasons for eloping, so sit down and get that clear in your mind. If you are not 100% sure why you are doing it then you cannot expect your family to accept your choice! However, you may need to edit your reasoning to spare some feelings! If you are eloping because you just can’t handle your Mom’s constant interfering in the wedding plans, then telling her this will no doubt break her heart! Try to be diplomatic.
Be Consistent in Terms of Who Can Attend
Some couples choose to have a small group of guests (usually no more than 8) attend their intimate wedding. If you do choose to do this then you need to be consistent. If the bride wants her Mom there, then it is only fair that the Groom has his there too. Sometimes having just the parents there makes it easier for people to accept because you can simply tell people that you are going to have a very small wedding with just your parents in attendance. If you are part of a group of friends you will want to avoid inviting only one friend. It is best not to invite any of them to avoid hurt feelings.
You Don’t Need To Invite Witnesses
Some couples feel pressured into inviting at least one couple to attend the wedding to serve as witnesses. However, this is not necessary. Some elopement packages include witnesses, and if they don’t it is perfectly acceptable to have the photographer and the venue manager act in that capacity. This frees you from making a choice about who gets to come along!