What Can You Do When Wedding Plans Change?
“Our marriage plans have changed. Should I go along with it?” That was a question recently posed to Dr. Robert Wallace, published by Creators Syndicate. It is a question that we encounter frequently here at WhereToElope.com. Of course, we want to give our perspective on what happens when big wedding plans change.
The basic situation outlined by the bride-to-be was that like so many others during the COVID-19 pandemic, her wedding plans had to be put on hold. The big, fancy wedding was no longer an option, and the bride admits that after more than a year at home together, it also seemed less important. Now, 2 years on, the world as a whole has changed and thanks to a weakened economy, poor job security, and many other factors her fiancé has suggested that the couple elope instead. She agrees that the big wedding is out of the question and that the wedding plans have changed, but isn’t quite on board with running off to Las Vegas! This has left her wondering if a smaller wedding is an option. Specifically, she asks if the type of wedding even matters. Will it impact the success of their marriage in the long run?
Does The Type of Wedding Matter?
As is often the case, I found myself disagreeing with the answer she was given! The response suggests that whether they choose a small wedding or try to pull off the original big wedding dream, as long as they are both in agreement then they stand an equal chance of staying together. On the surface, that seems like really good advice! However, as an Elopement Expert, I may have a little more insight than most. We have previously discussed some interesting research by Randy Olson determined that the more you spend on your wedding, the greater the risk of your marriage ending in divorce! That inherently means that big weddings result in divorce far more often than elopements or small weddings!
How to Come to Terms With it When Wedding Plans Change
Some of the other advice given was that when wedding plans change, the best thing to do is discuss it with your friends and family. While this may be a great way to bounce around some ideas, it could also be a recipe for disaster. Aside from cost, one of the top answers our readers give for choosing to elope is to eliminate family drama! We advise all of our eloping couples to keep one thing in mind – this is your day! You get to decide how it goes and nobody in your family needs to get a vote. If your wedding plans change and you decide to go ahead with a small wedding or elopement, you are not obligated to inform anyone!